A simple wedding culture
Customs and festivals of Xo Dang people are really plentiful and various. However, wedding customs here are so simple and the sacrifices such as Can wine, sticky rice, fish are prepared before the wedding.
If a man loves a woman and wants to marry her, the man’s family must ask a dependable old man to come to the woman’s family and ask them for making a marriage. If the woman’s family agrees, both families will plan and prepare for the wedding,
The man will prepare such presents as bracelets, necklaces and earrings for his fiancé as keepsakes and let everyone know that she is getting married.
The woman family cuts a cock’s throat and let the blood flow into a bowl. Then, they will take a small stick and divide the blood bowl into two for each family to bring a bowl to home. At night, in their dreams, if they dream of water, planting banana or trees, these things will be a good presage. However, if they dream of toads or falling tree, it will be a portent and the wedding will be postponed.
The wedding takes place in a happy way
As the customs, after the man and the woman get married, they will have a small celebration together and sing, dance and drink until they are all drunk. After the wedding, the wife goes home with the husband and brings along a bunch of firewood as the symbol of living in the man’s house. At the husband’s house, the wife has to stand outside and waits until the sky gets dark and only when there are all people in the husband’s family coming will the wife be allowed to come in and celebrate.
When all relatives come back home, the man’s family prepares a cock and cut its throat to mix the blood with wine and boil the cock. After that, they give those things to the young couple to eat and drink it. This custom means the peace and happiness in marriage. Eating and drinking in the wedding night means good health for the new couple and wishes them to have many healthy children.
After the wedding day, both wife and husband are not allowed to produce things or go to the water trough of the village. Both have to stay at home. The woman stays in the husband’s house to cook and burn her firewood. In the following days, they go to the stream and scoop up fish in front of relatives’ witness. If they scoop up the crab, they will have fight frequently in the future, but in contrary, if they shovel a fish, they will live happily together.
In the marriage, Xo Dang people often have married challenge rites of the woman’s family to the man’s. The indispensable sacrifices are gongs and a small jar – the traditional things. Gongs and thr small jar are considered as presents for children when they get married and these things will help the young couple have lots of children, plentiful grains and rice as well as assert the husband’s family belief. If the husband’s family does not have such these things, it will be said that they do not have any houses or properties.
Xo Dang ethnic people are now living in Kon Tum, Quang Ngai, Quang Nam province. Xo Dang people have their own traditional customs and habits still preserved and promoted until today.